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TIPS FOR GETTING KIDS TO BED:

February 18, 2012

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These tips helped my SEVEN kids get to bed when they were little:

1-  Make sure you do NOT allow TV or the computer for a few hours before bedtime. ALL light stimulates the Pineal gland, which signals the body to ‘WAKE UP’!


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2- Keep your kids away from Sugar and Candy, which can cause hyperactivity. Only let them have it on special occasions or on the week-ends as a reward for good behavior perhaps. You will be amazed at their better behavior! Here’s another idea to get better rest: Both GABA and Natural Calm Magnesium help relax the body AND mind at bedtime. (They are available in powdered form at most health food stores.  I get the best price online at iHerb.com (And $5 off your first order with this code: KID067).  We still take the GABA and Natural CALM Magnesium every night mixed with water and it really helps to give us all wonderful sleep.

Melatonin is another natural remedy for sleeplessness that re-sets the body’s bio-rhythm. You only need to use it for  for 2 weeks straight at the same time each night 20 minutes or so before bed. After that your body should be ‘trained’ to go to bed at that time, and  not need it until your schedule changes. Lots of info can be found online about their benefits. Ask your physician if you are in doubt about any of these natural remedies. Though it is true that most doctors know less about nutrition and concentrate mainly on pharmaceuticals, I was lucky I had a great family doctor who was very much into health foods and natural treatments.


Image3- Since I had so many kids, bedtime was always easier when I followed a ‘quiet time’ pattern each night. THIS is VERY important – but WORKS, and I elaborate on the details here: http://www.gomommygo.com/positive_behaviors.html#bedtime


4- And getting ready for a good day at school is also an ART that starts the day before: http://www.edudesigns.org/get_ready_for_school.html


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5- ALSO: Many parents use my illustrated behavior charts I offer FREE to everyone here, as incentives to positive behavior:  http://www.gomommygo.com/thankdontspank.html

SWEET DREAMS!


What to do with the Terrible TWO’s!

August 12, 2011

Jeanette recently emailed me with a problem:

“I am really eager to use the chart for my 2 1/2 yr old. When my son is not able to do something for his own self he gets mad and throws the item (toy) Is there a a visual that can teach him not to throw his toys when frustrated and instead ask for help in a nice voice instead of screaming?”

Here is my answer:  So glad you contacted me, Jeanette.
Yes, there IS a visual to help him use words instead of screaming! It’s right here:
http://www.gomommygo.com/positive_behaviors.html#talkYes_Yell_NO
Boy talks, instead of yelling
2 Yr olds get frustrated when they can’t express their feelings, and that can certainly put us in a panic at times! I recently discovered through research that the brain of a 2 year old is developing faster than at any other time in his life. Here’s my full article about it it:

http://www.edudesigns.org/ToddlersBrainPower.html
Since they can’t always say what’s bothering them, or even have the mental agility yet to be able to figure it out themselves, your job is to evaluate the situation objectively to find out the source of their problem.

Is it Emotional? Is it Physical?

Anger is a secondary emotion. That means that it doesn’t appear first.  There’s always a hurt that happens first, and THEN the anger. People who don’t want to cry many times jump into anger in order to bypass the pain they feel.
If you are a working parent and don’t see every little thing that goes on with them during the day, it can be hard to figure out what’s wrong sometimes. Your child may feel hurt and rejected from being at the babysitters all day. It could be an emotional hurt from an experience they just had. Or exposure to something they saw on TV. Young kids are much more sensitive than we realize.

Sometimes it can be a physical issue that can trigger outbursts.

  1.  Are they tired? Physical stress can cause a person to lose control.
  2. Are they thirsty? Dehydration causes the body to react in stress.
  3. Are they hungry? Blood sugar changes can cause stress and anxiety.

Sometimes, sensing that my kids were hungry or tired or both, I would let them know I could see they were upset, and that they were going to have to calm down so we could get them what they need right away.  I would ask them in a calm voice something like this:  “I can see you’re really tired and hungry. Would you rather settle down now so I can help you, OR do you need a little time to quiet down in your room?”  Either way, they get a double message where the only choice given them is to settle down.

There are lots of great tips you can get on speaking with Toddlers from Chris Thompson, the guru of TODDLER-Whisperers everywhere!  His site is here: http://talkingtotoddlers.com/4-tips
I was so impressed with his free audio lesson that even though my kids are all grown up, I bought the whole course!
You’ve got to check him out.  Let me know what you think.
I really want to help in any way I can,  Jeanette. Please let me know if there’s anything else you can think of that might shed light on the problem.
Best,
Ruth
PS – Did you ask for the Free laminated behavior card on this page yet?
 http://www.gomommygo.com/portable_charts.html
Just let me know.
🙂 Ruth

Ruth Elliott, Director, Edu Designs
www.edudesigns.org
www.gomommygo.com
Helping parents and caregivers guide character development…EDU DESIGNS is dedicated “to produce and distribute multimedia materials for the education, motivation and character development of children”  Edu Designs is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization. Donations are tax deductible as allowed by law.

CHARACTER is PREPARATION for the STORMS of LIFE!

May 22, 2011

From Ruth Elliott, Director

They hit you sooner or later…

A drawing © Ruth Elliott in Magic Marker, 1968

No way around it. Troubles hit you. Some financial. Some personal. Like Rudyard Kipling asked, how DO you hold on when all about you are losing their heads and blaming it on you? Even more, how do you keep trials and troubles from your door? The answer is: You can’t.

If Character is defined as “what you are when no one is watching”, then there has to be that space within to return to that is untouched by the storms of life. The eye of the hurricane, the apex of the pendulum that remains steady while the weight is swinging below it – that place we can hold on – and to align our perspective by. Keep that as an anchor and don’t let go! You can make it. Take the time to find it if you haven’t yet. It’s THERE. You’ll need it.

I heard a great man once say,

“There are two paths placed before us: The ‘GOOD’ and the ‘PLEASANT’. He who chooses the PLEASANT misses the mark. Please join with us on the better road!

Ruth Elliott, Director, Edu Designs

director@edudesigns.org

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